I really like my best friend's sister and I think she feels the same for me. I want to take this to the next step, but I am afraid of ruining my relationship with my friend. What should I do?
Dilemma boy, Kathmandu
There is no written rule that says you should not get involved with the family members of your best friend, though many people do worry about having to choose sides if the relationship doesn't last. Take it really slow and let those around you express their feelings and then don't hesitate so much to express yours. Maybe your friend's sister is the best thing that has happened in your life and it's a good idea to be honest about that. You might feel the friendship is at risk, but it needn't be.
eople develop relationships with all kinds of people in their life, and if you develop true and honest feelings for a best friend's sibling you aren't doing anything wrong by exploring the possibilities that might be right there in front of you. It happens more often than you think, and families find ways to adjust and accept what is going on. Should the relationship end, there will be some discomfort while everyone readjusts. But if you're sure of your feelings for her, be sensitive to your friend and his family, but take the risk. There could be a whole lot to gain.
I thought my boyfriend was the one for me until recently I found out that he was cheating on me. I am heartbroken. I want to forgive him, but I don't think I can. What should I do?
Miss Heartbroken, Dharan
It is understandable for you to feel heartbroken after your partner has cheated on you. It is an extremely difficult situation to cope with. Infidelity can bring to the fore the sensitive issues like trust, self-respect, self-worth and ego and even identity. For example, people who have been cheated on can have difficulty trusting again. As the saying goes, "once bitten, twice shy", and so people who have been cheated on are afraid of being hurt again. Nevertheless, getting your ex back or giving him up after he has cheated is completely your choice. It is important that you consider things carefully and don't rush to make your decision. Does he seem genuinely sorry? Could he do it again? Communication being the key in any relationship, you should try and talk to him about it openly. If he doesn't address the reasons why he cheated in the first place, there is a chance it will happen again. If he admits his wrong behaviour and shows responsibility for the harm he has done, he might be willing to change. The main thing is, be cautious and figure it out slowly.
