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I'm a 27-year-old male living in Australia. I've been here for more than 20 months now but I terribly miss Nepal. The thing is, I wasn't interested in moving to Australia but my girlfriend lived here and I came for the sake of my relationship. We've broken up now and I'm aching to go back home. My friends tell me not to return saying that there's nothing Nepal has to offer– no career, no security, no life. Honestly though, I'm not happy here and it's agonisingly frustrating. Help me.
You can live wherever you want, of course, but what is important is where you will be happy. This does not depend upon external circumstances only. You are old enough to decide what is better for you in the long run (we did not say best). A lot depends on what you are looking for in life. Relationship? Money? Stability? Work? If you return to Nepal, will you be happy enough to deal with the situation here or will you then want to return to Australia? Your friends will tell you lots of things, but ultimately, it is what you tell yourself that will help you to decide what to do. Good luck!
I'd been dating this girl who was in a relationship at the time. We bonded pretty well and she broke up with her boyfriend to be with me. The problem is that I feel very sorry for the guy; he did not deserve to be dumped. Also, the two of them are classmates and my girlfriend says it's awkward when he's around. I feel responsible for his broken heart. What do I do? P.S: I'm 22.
We can understand how awkward it is to be classmates but that is something all three of you have to work out. What part does the girl play in all this? So, in the end, who is responsible for what? Take responsibility for what you have done and let the others do the same. Don't take on what is not yours.
I love gifts. Who doesn't? Sometimes I make my boyfriend buy little-too-expensive gifts (because I'm normally broke) and he does so willingly. But there's this misconception that gifts are materialistic. It's just that I genuinely like gifts and accept them from anyone. How do I not get stereotyped as a person who believes that money can buy love?
You already know that gifts are only gifts, not love. They may demonstrate appreciation, happiness, a reward, etc., but not necessarily only love. It is nice to receive gifts, but not as a substitute for real love. People usually give gifts freely, not by force, though sometimes there may be emotional or psychological forces at work. Gifts can also work as a bribe. If they are a condition for love, that's something to think about. You already know the answer to all this; decide what you are going to do.
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