Who wears the pants in your relationship?

FROM ISSUE # 146 (February 2008) | IN THIS ISSUE
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Does hanging out with your scruffy buddies jeopardise your relationship with your girlfriend? How often does your boyfriend try to fix or change your high maintenance behavior and surprisingly succeeds? Does it bother you that your partner might get mad if you do something differently? Or do you simply avoid the argument and come up with a mutual understanding every time? Try our quiz and find out if you are the submissive or the dominant one in a relationship.

1. At the end of an argument most often:
A. Your partner agrees to whatever you say.
B. You agree to whatever your partner says.
C. Part ways.
D. Come to a mutual understanding.

2. Your partner sees you with another person of the opposite sex and gets paranoid.
A. You get to explain yourself.
B. You keep quiet while s/he shouts.
C. You break up.
D. Our relationship is based on trust.

3. Who does most of the talking in your relationship?
A. You do.
B. They do.
C. We don't talk much.
D. We have good conversation.

4. Who normally decides on where you go for a date?
A. Has to be me.
B. My partner does.
C. Don't have time to go on dates.
D. Both of us.

5. Who normally starts a fight?
A. Your partner.
B. You.
C. Don't know because we fight all the time.
D. Depends on the situation.

6. Whose fault is it?
A. Theirs
B. Yours
C. We have a fight about that too.
D. Could be either of ours.

7. Once the fight is over:
A. You make up with your partner.
B. Your partner makes up with you.
C. Make up, what's that?
D. Both of us talk it out.

More As: You have the upper hand in your current relationship. The fact that you control could also mean that your partner lets you do so because s/he loves you and understands your point. Relax; it's not going to end unless you want it to.

More Bs: Your partner is in charge of you most of the time. You are more submissive and you don't mind being controlled at some levels. You can get through even the toughest test of patience. But that doesn't mean that you take whatever is given to. You also make a point when you have to.

More Cs: Your relationship is in extreme jeopardy. You lack passion to get it going and it's time you either parted ways or made the relationship exciting in some way.

More Ds: You have a perfect relationship. It's not surprising on how you have been sailing so smoothly. However it does get boring at times because of the fact that it is just too perfect.