A friend of mine has a crush on this guy in our class. I've been trying to get him to go out with her but a couple of days ago, he called me and said that he has a thing for me. The problem is that I like him too and my other friends say I should go out with him. What should I do?
– Nisha
Well, Nisha, you are beginning to experience the perils of "friendship"! Obviously, we cannot determine how one person is going to feel about another. No matter how we try to manage it, we can't really make a person like/dislike someone. How the boy feels about someone depends upon him! Really does not matter what your friends say you should do; you don't really want them to live your life–or your love!–for you, do you? Guess who really decides to do what you need to do.
Engineers and doctors have a lot of respect in Nepal and my family follows the same school of thought. Though I am interested in music and want to make a career out of it, my parents made me take up science. Now that I am nearly done with my +2 exams, I want to apply for music school but my parents refuse to understand. How do I convince them that music is my passion?
– Music Man
Music Man, now that you have finished with your +2 exams, you have lots of choices before you, music included. Problem is, parents are afraid that you may not make a go of it or make enough of a living if you go for music--unless you are a really poor musician! What we need to do is to communicate to your parents how much you like music, what it means to you, what you intend to do with it. The clearer your ideas, the more you can make them pause and think. Naturally, they want you to do well and succeed and are not sure if music will do it. I doubt if they are against music itself! Good luck--and keep practicing your music!
I lack confidence. I think that everything I do seems to go wrong. I can't figure out what to do with my life. Everyone has different opinions on what I should study or do but I cannot figure out what my real passions are. I am used to going with the flow. How do I figure out what I should do? Please help!
– Passionless person
Dear Passionless Person, well, how can things go wrong if I do not know what to do? I have to do something first before it goes wrong! I don't know your age, but if you are between 16-24, being confused about what to do is rather normal. It sounds as if you are looking for answers from others, telling you what you "should" do, rather than what you think you want to do. No wonder you are confused, if you are dependent upon others to decide for you. Maybe if you could stop listening to all those voices and paid attention to your own, you would discover your own passion. I wonder if you are really "passionless". It might be more a question of listening to your own stirrings of passion, right?
