YOUNG LOVE
I am a girl of 20 years in love with a guy younger than me. We've been good friends for the past two years. He understands me so well, even my silence. Recently, I came to know that he has found out about my feelings for him but we haven't talked about it. Though we never talk about love, I have this feeling that we are in love. I can't imagine life without him but am worried that there may be problems in the future since he is younger than me. Not that I have a problem with that but from our parents, both his and mine. And then again I am not quite sure what he exactly feels for me. Since I am a girl, can I propose? Should I talk to him about this or, since he knows about my feelings, should I just wait?
Roshani
First of all, you don't have to wait for the guy to make the first move. It won't hurt to tell him how you feel. In fact, it will make you feel better. Get his response, then you can go on to worry about the other problems that might accompany the relationship. But, if you feel that the age gap and your family are going to be too tough for you to handle, you should think twice before going ahead. Be very sure about the whole thing; look at everything from all angles. Most importantly, ask yourself if you will be able to stand up for your relationship later if your families object. If you get a positive response to these questions, then there should be no problem.
LOVE OR INFATUATION
I am 17 and in I love a 15-year-old girl. She is a good-looking girl and the problem is that I love her a lot. She isn't mine yet and I just can't forget her. She even tells me to get another girl, as she isn't worthy for me although I would love to give her my whole happiness. Is this some kind of infactuation or love?
She tells you to look for someone else but you haven't mentioned why. Is she seeing another person or is she just not interested in you? At 15, I don't think she'd really like to get into a serious relationship. As for you, it could well be just infatuation. Give both of yourselves a chance to know each other properly.
POOR LOVE
I love a guy very much and he loves me too. We have a relationship of two years and now we have come to such a situation where we cannot be separated from each other. The problem is my family doesn't like him. They think that he is not rich enough to keep me happy. They have told me to leave him many times but I can't because he is my first love and we love each other very much. Please tell me what to do.
Depressed gal
How old are the both of you? Does the guy have a job? You haven't mentioned this. If the guy is unemployed, of course your parents do have a point. Love alone cannot support a marriage. If he does have a decent job, then I think that's good enough. You will have to talk to your parents and try to make them see your side of the story. Happiness is something no one can obtain from riches. Try explaining it to your family; if you are strong in your case, I think they might just come around.
TO LOVE OR NO TO LOVE
I have been chatting with a gal for the last three months. I proposed to her without seeing her. But when I met her she didn't turn out the way the way I imagined she would be. Now I am in a dilemma. Do I still continue to love her or stop all contact with her? I can't stop really cut all contact with her because I know that it will hurt her. I need your help.
Anonymous
Difficult situation right? Don't you think you should have at least thought twice before proposing? What was wrong with the girl? I guess she didn't match up to your definition of "pretty". Do remember one thing, a person is beautiful from within, not from the outside. Now you have to tell her the truth, keeping in mind not to hurt her feelings. It's quite a delicate situtaion, so please do handle it with care.
Dear broken gal
Please don't repeat the same mistake again. Its just a way to hurt yourself and if you like it then do go ahead. You can never trust a person who never cared for your feelings. If he had really felt for you the first time he would not have left you. It's not guaranteed that he won't leave you if he finds another girl and what if the girl who ditched him returns back to him? In my opinion you should not give him any chance and there's no rule that you have to be with the person you love. Maybe there's someone better person for you, you just need to wait for the right time to come.
Prar
